When Should I Have Another Child?
The Ingy Bingy Band, a pacifier wristband, is the sanity saver you need to survive the newborn phase with a close age gap!
By Emily Rogers
When should I have another child?
I hate to break it to you, sister, but the only person who can truly answer this question is you and your spouse. Every woman and every couple are different so always remember not to compare your family size to someone else’s.
I have chronic anxiety and struggled deeply with postpartum depression. I have often fallen into the trap of comparing myself to the woman who (seemingly) effortlessly cares for her 6 six kids. Her mission in life is different from my mission and my mission in life is different from yours. Here’s a few things to consider when planning for another child:
- Mental Health: If you are struggling with postpartum anxiety or postpartum depression, do not feel guilty about spacing your kids further apart. You need to be in a healthy mental state to be the best mom for your child(ren). If you aren’t taking care of yourself, you can’t take care of your kiddos! Prioritze therapy, self-care, or anxiety medication so that you are in the proper headspace to have another child!
- Physical Health: It’s important to think about how your last pregnancy/delivery went as well as any other health concerns you may be dealing with. If you had a traumatic birth, you may want to wait longer to have another child. If your pregnancies are extremely difficult, you may want to wait until your first child is older and can do more things without your help. My first son was 15 months when I got pregnant with my second and it made understand why some couples choose a larger age gap! It’s hard to be tired, sick, and in pain when you have to care for another tiny human!
- Finances: You should consider if you are in a stable financial situation to bring another child into your family. Will you need to pay for daycare? Will you need a bigger car to accommodate another carseat? These are all financial things to consider!
- Breastfeeding: Breastfeeding can block ovulation for some women so if you are breastfeeding you may not be able to conceive!
However, take all of this with a grain of salt because there’s no perfect time to have a child! There will always be something holding you back so if you are waiting for a “perfect time” it probably doesn’t exist!
Pro tip for balancing a newborn with a short age gap:
Pacifier: Pacifiers are great tools to satisfy the non-nutritive sucking behavior that newborns desire. An infant pacifier is especially great for a second child because it can calm down your baby while you tend to the needs of your other child(ren). In addition to an infant pacifier, you should get an Ingy Bingy Band, a pacifier wristband. A pacifier clip has been the typical solution when the infant pacifier keeps falling out.
However, babies can’t typically put their newborn pacifier back in their mouth on their own using a pacifier clip until they are around 8 months. The Ingy Bingy Band is a pacifier wristband that helps your fussy baby to calm down all on their own! This pacifier bracelet helps babies to self-soothe from as early as four months old! This pacifier wristband is the sanity saver you need to survive the newborn phase with a close age gap!
The Ingy Bingy Band is not your everyday pacifier clip! This game-changing pacifier wristband helps babies self-soothe at a younger age than ever before! Instinctively, babies gnaw on their hands in an attempt to soothe. The Ingy Bingy pacifier wristband keeps their pacifier right where they’ll find it, allowing your baby to comfort and calm themselves while you do whatever it is you need to do!
Our buttery soft wristband comes in two styles to accommodate every pacifier.
Our Pacific style should be used when your baby’s pacifier holes are near their nose and chin when in use. It is most commonly used with Avent, BIBS, Dr. Brown’s, MAM, Nuby, NUK, Medela, FRIGG, Nanobébé, Tommee Tippee, and Chicco pacifiers.
Our Sequoia style should be used when your baby’s pacifier holes are near their nose and chin when in use. It is most commonly used with Itzy Ritzy, Ryan & Rose, and The Dearest Grey pacifiers.
If you are still unsure which pacifier wristband style is right for you, check out our style guide or text the name and/or picture of your preferred paci & we’ll let you know which style is right for you!