Motherhood is not for the faint of heart. It will bring you to your highest highs and your lowest lows. Motherhood is the greatest job I’ll ever have, but it’s important to prioritize yourself occasionally. This is the hardest thing for me to do!
Why is it so hard?!
- Mom guilt: Mom guilt is real. It’s hard to be away from your kids without feeling selfish or guilty. If you’re struggling with mom guilt, know you’re not alone. Try to remember that you will be a better mom if you are filling yourself up! You can’t pour from an empty cup.
- Childcare: We lived 2 hours away from our families for our first 3 years of parenthood. Being 15 minutes away from my parents has made it infinitely easier for me to make myself a priority. However, not everyone has this luxury. If finding childcare is an obstacle for you, find things that you can do from home that will fill your cup!
- Baking: Making some banana bread or chocolate chip cookies can be the perfect, not to mention delicious, way to destress at the end of the day!
- Crafting: I’ve tried making hairbows, fleece blankets, and designing t-shirts in the last few years. Scrapbooking, Cricut projects, or sewing might be the thing that makes you happy and filled after a long day with a baby!
- TV Time: Watching a good show after a hectic day with your baby can be the perfect thing to get you refueled. Some of my go to shows right now are: Suits, Only Murders in the Building, and The Summer I Turned Pretty.
- Money: Money is tight in most households these days. If you don't want to or can't spend money here are two completely free self-care options.
- Library: Take advantage of your local library! Escaping into the alternate reality of a good book is one of my favorite self-care methods! As a busy mom, you may not feel like you have time to read. Most libraries have apps such as Libby or Axis 360 so you can listen to a juicy romance novel while you’re doing the dishes at night! Libraries also typically offer other free classes/groups such as knitting, book clubs, or macrame. Although some of these will require childcare, others offer free grab-and-go options!
- Exercise: Going for a walk or doing a workout video on YouTube is a great way to prioritize your health for free!
- Time: The biggest inhibitor of self-care is finding time to do it. When you’re up multiple times a night you might not want to stay up late or get up early. I recommend getting your baby an Ingy Bingy Band so that you can do some self-care during the day! There’s nothing worse than calming your fussy baby with their infant pacifier, turning on your workout video and then your baby’s infant pacifier keeps falling out.
A pacifier clip has been the typical solution to this problem. However, babies can’t typically put their newborn pacifier back in their mouth on their own using a pacifier clip until they are around 8 months. The Ingy Bingy Band is a pacifier wristband that helps your fussy baby to calm down all on their own! This pacifier bracelet helps babies to self-soothe from as early as four months old! This pacifier wristband helps your baby find their newborn pacifier on their own without you needing to pause your self-care time!